You should pay close attention; there are discussion questions at the end.
A few months back I discovered this website, OKCupid. Never having been big in the whole online matchmaking thing… I pretty much blew it off as just for fun. I mean here’s this site with all sorts of quizzes and it will ask me random questions for as long as I am willing to answer them. What could be better, right?
My curiosity got to me though, and I started searching the whole “perfect match” end of things. I ran the little query and got a few results back not as many as I would have liked, but I’m picky and the query reflected that so I didn’t bitch. Besides the few that came back would be peach, right? These guys are my perfect match.
The first one… well the first one had a pic. He was painted gold…with horns. * And the profile was even worse if you can believe that. I started to remember all the reasons why I never gave in to these sites before, but I persevered and moved on to number 2. Number 2, also had a photo. He was a gem. Tall, pale, facial hair…yeah pretty much perfect. I opened his profile and was astonished. Geek? Check. Coffee? Check Check. Books, Music, Movies? Good. Weird Foods? Perfect. The list of requirements was steadily being checked off. He even called himself a bastard. I needed a second opinion.
Enter Sarah. Sarah loved him. Sarah started planning our wedding and naming the 85.6 kids that she was envisioning us with. I decided to sit back and wait – see if he found me. Amazingly enough I still do have one or two old fashioned traits…
A few weeks go by and this guy stumbles** onto my site. He comments and links his site. I take a look. On this site is the same pic from that match profile that I was fairly smitten over. I commented on his site. A pattern formed. More comments. A few emails. The more I read, the more I liked this guy.
Meanwhile, my dearest friend cajoled (bribed, really) me into signing up for Match.com. I really did not want to do this, but it was either sign myself up or have Chris do it for me. I figured I could stall if I did it, Chris really wouldn’t be out there looking for my profile, would he? So I opened my account and hesitated on posting my profile. Have I mentioned the amount of hate I have for being required to talk about myself? (Maybe I should have let Chris fill out the profile for me…) In an effort to stall a bit longer with the whole “let’s talk about me” section, I skipped ahead and setup my query. Upon running it, I received many options… but amazingly enough I recognized the photo of the first return. I knew his name, I had read his blog, and in fact I had just commented on a test he had posted. I laughed it off, funny coincidence.
Little did I know that I had one more funny coincidence in store; a few days passed and I was referred to a website by a friend. Stumble Upon was not a matchmaking site (thank god), instead it was a time waster, a community builder. You have a friends section, your friends of friends, then your network and audience, and… matches? Hell – why not? I clicked wondering what would come up this time – no familiar face. I was actually kind of disappointed, but I had stumbling to keep my mind occupied. Stumbling turned out to be fun and I was lucky since he basically disappeared for a week. At the end of the week 2 things occurred. First, while stumbling I checked that “matches” page again… and … my suspicions were confirmed – he was stalking me. There he was Number 1 and a 100% match. Second, I realized that it had in fact been awhile since he had shown his face somewhere. I sent an email to see if he was in fact dead. He laughed and thought I was adorable. He also quickly complied with the request to update his blog, which made me happy.
*You thought I was kidding about the whole horns thing, didn’t you?
**This is my story I can fumble the truth to protect friends who should be shot for their actions.
And that brings you to today. It’s now been 2 months. 2 months. I’ve had relationships that were shorter than this one sided infatuation. So what’s next you ask? Well I really don’t know. I do know that I am dwelling a fair bit, and that I smile when I see his name in my inbox. Other than that, I don’t know. Honestly, I’m having a hard time reading him. I don’t know if there is even a smidge of interest there so I’m a bit stalled at the moment.
Moira says “You should shelve that last old-fashioned trait and just ask the bastard to dinner.”
Sarah says “You just need to tell him to pack a bag and bring him to Louisiana with you for the 4th.
Chris’s suggestion involved me crawling into his bedroom window and taking advantage of him. While that plan has certain … merits, I informed Chris that just because that may have worked for him 6 years ago, we all aren’t as a psycho as that…
Evil Sara thinks he may just be gay…
Ah yes, discussion questions:
What do you think Sabine should do?
Should she just move on?
How is he able to resist the charm of someone like Sabine?