The quote is -

Darling, a true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires.
– Lazarus Long (Robert A. Heinlein)

I’ve never been considered a prude. Behind closed doors I don’t give a damn what you do. I don’t care if you are cheating on your husband with his best friend. I don’t care if you have a shoe or a rope fetish. Hell I don’t even care if takes a monkey, 8 guys, and a clown nose to get you off as long as you have the courtesy to not do it in front of my face. And in return, I promise that you will never have to witness my own special brand of kink.

I’ve always considered that to be a common standard, but apparently I’m mistaken. Sex, or acts that are sexual in nature, is no longer limited to locations where everyone is a consenting adult. I’m constantly bombarded by women trying to prove their sexuality in more and more increasingly pubic environments. And I don’t understand. Is it a lack of caring about what people think? Or are you trying to shock people? Is it peer pressure?

Am I the only one left that believes that things that are sexual in nature are best left for a private affair? I understand that the term private can be a very encompassing term. I understand that there are public places in which sexual acts are not considered taboo – strip clubs for instance, everyone here knows exactly what to expect when one steps into a strip club. All it takes is a glance at a club’s flyer. There will be women in varying stages of undress, which is the definition of strip clubs.

However that is not the definition of an event. And no where in an event announcement is the warning that I will witness nudity. But that hasn’t stopped me from witnessing more and more women who believe that after a certain hour it is okay to go topless at event. When I see it, I leave. I have to, some of these girls are good friends of mine and I love them dearly… and I don’t want to lose the respect I have for them. But I see that action as a loss of self-respect because in my head you are placing a lesser value on your body by allowing yourself to be used as someone else’s entertainment.

And if nudity is okay at events now… then where does it stop?

I have discussed my opinions extensively with some of the members of Marshin Fayne regarding the Clan’s need to “push the envelope” when it comes to their parties and that the only aspect of “pushing the envelope” that they see as viable is one of a public sexual nature. It is not what I come to events for; in fact I attend events for quite the opposite reason. Events for me are a place where I can go to get away from the darker ideals of the world. I’m there for the social interactions involving courtesy, chivalry, and honor. Not to witness a woman being tied to a whipping post for a “Whipping Master” to abuse her.

Maybe I do have a prudish nature.

But while I will have to agree with Sarah that the word choice in the quote isn’t the best… frankly, it’s Heinlein, and can you really expect greatness from the man in regards to women? The idea behind the quote has a great deal of merit. The activities you participate in behind closed doors shouldn’t play into your daily life. Bringing your sex life into the workplace is never a great idea. And the same goes for other aspects of your life. People will respect you more, if you leave a bit of mystery. And the person who you share that private self with will feel even more special knowing that they see a part of you that others are denied.

And as a complete aside, am I really the only person who has absolutely no problem with the word “whore”? It is nothing more than a label… and labels only have power if you allow them to. The emotions behind a label can be negative, depending on who is speaking it but is the word itself really deserving of such hate?

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All of that being said this was not the post I set out to write. Not even close really. I had a much more personal… and somewhat more light hearted approach planned for this. When I finally sat down to write, this was what came out. Maybe once I have a bit more time I can sit down and write the post I wanted.